April 25, 2022

The Power of “Agreement Frame”

by Coach Kardan

What should you do when someone tells you something that you don’t appreciate, respect, or agree with? How can you still stay in rapport with them and make sure you don’t lose the conversation without being frustrated or upset?

In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) there is a concept called “Agreement Frame” which will help you in your 1-to-1 communications as well as when you are on stage, and you are having a conversation with one of the people in the audience. Here are the three mainframes:

I APPRECIATE what you are saying, AND…
what you are saying, AND…
with what you are saying, AND…

The most effective way to use the agreement frame and get the best results is to do the following: 

Example 1
There is a conversation between person A and person B.
A: You must be lucky to succeed in life.

B: I understand but, …….. (Avoid this pattern)

B can also respond: I agree with what you are saying AND, can I share my thoughts? Here is what I believe: Success is the result of good judgment, vision, and dedication. I am sure some luck will help too. What do YOU think?

Example 2
Another conversation between person A and person B.
A: Not all leaders need to learn public speaking. They can easily hire other people to do it for them.

B: I respect what you are saying AND, can I share my thoughts? Here is what I believe: I believe all influencers need to learn how to speak better so they can empower people more effectively with their speaking skills. What do YOU think?

Flexibility is important for effective communication. Avoiding resistance from others keeps others involved in what one is saying and leaves them open to new ideas.

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About the Author

COACH KARDAN is an entrepreneur and the CEO of three training companies in Japan, the UAE, and KSA. He is a management consultant and leadership trainer for government officials, leaders, and business executives. He is the author of two best-selling books, and he has been delivering educational seminars and training programs to more than 35,000 leaders and managers in the last 20 years. In 2019, with the support of the UAE Federal Youth Authority, he served over 5,000 young Emiratis by conducting leadership workshops and training programs in several youth hubs around the country, and with the help of the youth, he initiated the “Emirates Youth Leadership Certification Program.” He is a certified trainer from the Leadership Academy in San Diego, California. COACH KARDAN has served thousands of young and senior leaders to improve their performance and increase the revenue of their organizations to more than 2,000% within 3-5 years. He has been an executive coach to Fortune 500 CEOs and their teams. He has lectured at several prestigious universities and institutions worldwide and has influenced millions of people with his inspirational stories, business strategies, and life lessons.

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